WHY I HAVE NEVER BEEN MARRIED….
March 3rd 2007 04:04
UMM…No one ever asked me……….
Well aside from that, to me marriage is for keeps, for better or worse, in sickness and in health and all that, fatness, flatulence, bed head hair, annoying habits et al.
I have been in love and had significant longterm relationships in my 43 years of plundering the planet.
Came close to getting hitched a couple of times, Las Vegas, Mexico, quickie, spur of the moment, romantic, mostly drunken elopement type plans that never came to fruition.
Mainly cos, deep down inside I have very old fashioned ideas about marriage and take it extremely seriously.
Arranged marriages aside, (which seem to have more longevity for probably obvious reasons),I recognise that most people who get married in supposedly civilized, developed countries who can express free will, honestly and truly believe they have met “the one and only true love of their life”, or they wouldn’t go through the exercise. I also understand that the desire for children is often a powerful determining factor as well, natural instincts to mate and procreate and all that primal stuff, even if I haven’t personally experienced that particular phenomenon.
In my opinion, far too many people say “I do” without really having a clue. Naïve as to the true nature of the beloved to whom they are betroth, rose tinted glasses firmly affixed, casting a pastel, soft focus, smug, glow over the relationship with little or no heed paid to the true meaning behind the vows they will take and no foresight.
To me divorce is almost a side effect of our disposable, consumer driven, modern supposedly developed society.
I believe it is too easy in these modern times to walk away from a marriage without trying to retrieve the relationship. Disposable declarations of undying love, respect and support,
non-recyclable nuptials, mismatched matrimony, replacable relationships, tossed onto the garbage heap of human experience to rot and fester along with all the other broken promises and dreams.
Have never wed, I would be interested to hear the views of those who have...............
If I ever get married, I will do it once, with the intention of having and holding close to my heart, my significant other, forever, how ever long that may be………..
Well aside from that, to me marriage is for keeps, for better or worse, in sickness and in health and all that, fatness, flatulence, bed head hair, annoying habits et al.
I have been in love and had significant longterm relationships in my 43 years of plundering the planet.
Came close to getting hitched a couple of times, Las Vegas, Mexico, quickie, spur of the moment, romantic, mostly drunken elopement type plans that never came to fruition.
Mainly cos, deep down inside I have very old fashioned ideas about marriage and take it extremely seriously.
Arranged marriages aside, (which seem to have more longevity for probably obvious reasons),I recognise that most people who get married in supposedly civilized, developed countries who can express free will, honestly and truly believe they have met “the one and only true love of their life”, or they wouldn’t go through the exercise. I also understand that the desire for children is often a powerful determining factor as well, natural instincts to mate and procreate and all that primal stuff, even if I haven’t personally experienced that particular phenomenon.
In my opinion, far too many people say “I do” without really having a clue. Naïve as to the true nature of the beloved to whom they are betroth, rose tinted glasses firmly affixed, casting a pastel, soft focus, smug, glow over the relationship with little or no heed paid to the true meaning behind the vows they will take and no foresight.
To me divorce is almost a side effect of our disposable, consumer driven, modern supposedly developed society.
I believe it is too easy in these modern times to walk away from a marriage without trying to retrieve the relationship. Disposable declarations of undying love, respect and support,
Have never wed, I would be interested to hear the views of those who have...............
If I ever get married, I will do it once, with the intention of having and holding close to my heart, my significant other, forever, how ever long that may be………..
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Comment by Mike Crowl
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Comment by Miss Nomer
Thank's I could put it down to being older and wiser, and watching so many friends and acquaintances race into and out of marriages, but really I have always felt that way since I was young..... Thank's for the kind wishes...I'll let you know if anything resembling a realistic romance comes promenading by.....
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Miss Nomer
Comment by David
Regarding getting married because we see things through rose-coloured glasses?:
If I ever get hold of that blind person who put his non-rose-coloured glasses on me while I wasn't looking ... and then just took off from the pedestrian lights with his Labador? ... ***
David ...
Comment by Miss Nomer
the blind leading the blind down the aisle of wedded bliss?
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Miss Nomer
Comment by MaaUpma
Indus Guru
Vastu - The Indian Science of Dwelling
EGurumantra - Demystifying India
Have had a very successful marriage for the last 11 years and it is still going strong.
The reason for the success has been very simple - One, we both know we love each other even if we do not express it that frequently. Two, we both have divided our domains. For example, I decide how the house is organized and my husband decides where the child studies. Third, when I am angry my husband remains cool and vice versa.
Very simple
Comment by Miss Nomer
Thanks for sharing your story....sounds like a good mix, respect, understanding and love.........
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Miss Nomer