Miss NomerTHE THOUGHT FOR THE DAY IS........
February 7th 2007 04:10
THE THOUGHT FOR THE DAY IS...........JEALOUSY AS A POSSESSIVE NOUN....
This is not an english lesson, because Jealousy does not qualify as a possessive noun.
I found myself feeling jealous not so long ago and with my new found curiousity about my feelings sat with the feeling for a while....Yup it was jealousy as I understand it as a feeling so my inquisitive nature took me to my 2nd best friend Wikipedia.........
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival.
The word stems from the French jalousie, formed from jaloux (jealous), and further from Low Latin zelosus (full of zeal), and from the Greek word for "ardour, zeal" (with a root connoting "to boil, ferment"; or "yeast"). Jealousy is a familiar experience in human relationships. It has been reported in every culture and in many forms where researchers have looked. It has been observed in infants as young as 5-6 months old and in adults over 65 years old.
It has been an enduring topic of interest for scientists, artists, and theologians. Psychologists have proposed several models of the processes underlying jealousy and have identified individual differences that influence the expression of jealousy. Sociologists have demonstrated that cultural beliefs and values play an important role in determining what triggers jealousy and what constitutes socially acceptable expressions of jealousy. Biologists have identified factors that may unconsciously influence the expression of jealousy. Artists have explored the theme of jealousy in photographs, paintings, movies, songs, plays, poems, and books. Theologians have offered religious views of jealousy based on the scriptures of their respective faiths. Despite its familiarity, however, people define jealousy in different ways. Some even mislabel it as being protective of something or someone, when the fact is, it's really simply possessive jealousy itself; and many feel they don't possess effective strategies for coping with this form of jealousy. [8]
The word "jealousy" is frequently used to describe what is more properly envy, fixation on what someone else has.
I spent a lot of time feeling jealous in my relationship with my ex, (the tv through the window ex), he worked with lots of gorgeous women and everyone adores him, my jealousy used to show in subtle and not so subtle ways, almost complete insanity towards the end.
He used to say to me "Jealousy is a poisonous and energy depleting emotion, I have no time or space for jealousy in my life", which used to send me into internal conniptions of a most stomach churning kind. On his part there were a few occasions when I would have expected him to be jealous of attention I was receiving from certain attractive men, but no.
I turned this lack of showing what, rightly or wrongly to me, felt like a natural reaction into accusations, you dont love me, you dont care whether I .....etc etc..All the reasoning in the world from him could not alleviate my pain,
"I love you, I am here with you, I am not there with her", I simply could not believe that he loved me and was not going to leave me for someone else, anyone else. Of course in the end he did leave me, not for anyone else, but just simply to leave me, and me alone, because to be with me was not one scerric of fun anymore, only painful and sad.
For a long time after we broke up I still harboured jealous feelings for any female that happened to move within his orbit, to be honest, when I hear he is off on an exotic location with the lovely x, y & z in the crew, I still feel tiny pangs of something akin to jealousy, but more subtle, like a low grade headache as opposed to a migraine.
I just could not see any reason not to feel so emotional about the perceived threat of losing someone who I absolutely adored, worshipped the ground he walked on, happily wash his socks and undies and whatever else. (God I feel a slight nausea reading this paragraph), the point is I was totallly and utterly blindly besotted, enamoured, you name it with this man to the exclusion of anyone else, family included and especially unworthy me................
I now know that my jealousy in that relationship had everything to do with my lack of self-esteem, my total conviction that I am unlovable and therefore ultimately very leaveable, and little to do with anything that was said or done to make me feel that way. Perception is everything and nothing.
If you leave me can I come too.......................... ............................. .
This is not an english lesson, because Jealousy does not qualify as a possessive noun.
I found myself feeling jealous not so long ago and with my new found curiousity about my feelings sat with the feeling for a while....Yup it was jealousy as I understand it as a feeling so my inquisitive nature took me to my 2nd best friend Wikipedia.........
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival.
The word stems from the French jalousie, formed from jaloux (jealous), and further from Low Latin zelosus (full of zeal), and from the Greek word for "ardour, zeal" (with a root connoting "to boil, ferment"; or "yeast"). Jealousy is a familiar experience in human relationships. It has been reported in every culture and in many forms where researchers have looked. It has been observed in infants as young as 5-6 months old and in adults over 65 years old.
It has been an enduring topic of interest for scientists, artists, and theologians. Psychologists have proposed several models of the processes underlying jealousy and have identified individual differences that influence the expression of jealousy. Sociologists have demonstrated that cultural beliefs and values play an important role in determining what triggers jealousy and what constitutes socially acceptable expressions of jealousy. Biologists have identified factors that may unconsciously influence the expression of jealousy. Artists have explored the theme of jealousy in photographs, paintings, movies, songs, plays, poems, and books. Theologians have offered religious views of jealousy based on the scriptures of their respective faiths. Despite its familiarity, however, people define jealousy in different ways. Some even mislabel it as being protective of something or someone, when the fact is, it's really simply possessive jealousy itself; and many feel they don't possess effective strategies for coping with this form of jealousy. [8]
The word "jealousy" is frequently used to describe what is more properly envy, fixation on what someone else has.
I spent a lot of time feeling jealous in my relationship with my ex, (the tv through the window ex), he worked with lots of gorgeous women and everyone adores him, my jealousy used to show in subtle and not so subtle ways, almost complete insanity towards the end.
He used to say to me "Jealousy is a poisonous and energy depleting emotion, I have no time or space for jealousy in my life", which used to send me into internal conniptions of a most stomach churning kind. On his part there were a few occasions when I would have expected him to be jealous of attention I was receiving from certain attractive men, but no.
I turned this lack of showing what, rightly or wrongly to me, felt like a natural reaction into accusations, you dont love me, you dont care whether I .....etc etc..All the reasoning in the world from him could not alleviate my pain,
"I love you, I am here with you, I am not there with her", I simply could not believe that he loved me and was not going to leave me for someone else, anyone else. Of course in the end he did leave me, not for anyone else, but just simply to leave me, and me alone, because to be with me was not one scerric of fun anymore, only painful and sad.
For a long time after we broke up I still harboured jealous feelings for any female that happened to move within his orbit, to be honest, when I hear he is off on an exotic location with the lovely x, y & z in the crew, I still feel tiny pangs of something akin to jealousy, but more subtle, like a low grade headache as opposed to a migraine.
I just could not see any reason not to feel so emotional about the perceived threat of losing someone who I absolutely adored, worshipped the ground he walked on, happily wash his socks and undies and whatever else. (God I feel a slight nausea reading this paragraph), the point is I was totallly and utterly blindly besotted, enamoured, you name it with this man to the exclusion of anyone else, family included and especially unworthy me................
I now know that my jealousy in that relationship had everything to do with my lack of self-esteem, my total conviction that I am unlovable and therefore ultimately very leaveable, and little to do with anything that was said or done to make me feel that way. Perception is everything and nothing.
If you leave me can I come too.......................... ............................. .
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