THE THOUGHT FOR THE DAY IS........
February 8th 2007 01:55
THE THOUGHT FOR THE DAY IS............WHY DO WE ASK HOW SOMEONE IS WHEN WE DONT REALLY CARE.....?
This question has arisen in my mind as a result of various virtual and real life conversations I have participated in these past few days. I have been pondering the predeliction of most polite individuals of not saying what one thinks/means but the moderation which flavour most social discourses with a taste of what one thinks the other person wants to hear, (will respond most favourably to). To my mind a self-censcorship of sorts.
Maybe because I have chosen, at this point, to lead a fairly solitary, self reliant existence, I have found myself paying close attention to what people say to me, luckily I am hyperactive and my thought processes can quickly assimilate the words, churn them in my head and spit out a thoroughly biased analyis of underlying intention if I perceive any. Quite often there seems to be little point intended, merely a wish to maintain some kind of connection, human interaction, you know....keep in touch and all that.
Most conversations open with a salutatory, "How are you", "How are things", "How have you been", when the person making that statement couldnt really give a rat's arse how I am, and if I launched into a spiel about my current situation would suddenly remember a previously forgotten prior engagement and scurry off.
I do it myself, the phone rings, after I ascertain that I will deign to accept the call, exchange a few niceties, answer the customary "How are you", with a benign, "I'm fine", ask in return, "How are you", except.......I do want to hear how "they" are...Why, it takes the focus of me, that's why.
So...next time you engage in interaction with another, maybe take pause for a moment, deflect the automatic response, listen, and answer truthfully if someone asks you....
How are you.......and maybe you may gain some kind of insight into how you are and how the other participant is, and maybe not.
This question has arisen in my mind as a result of various virtual and real life conversations I have participated in these past few days. I have been pondering the predeliction of most polite individuals of not saying what one thinks/means but the moderation which flavour most social discourses with a taste of what one thinks the other person wants to hear, (will respond most favourably to). To my mind a self-censcorship of sorts.
Maybe because I have chosen, at this point, to lead a fairly solitary, self reliant existence, I have found myself paying close attention to what people say to me, luckily I am hyperactive and my thought processes can quickly assimilate the words, churn them in my head and spit out a thoroughly biased analyis of underlying intention if I perceive any. Quite often there seems to be little point intended, merely a wish to maintain some kind of connection, human interaction, you know....keep in touch and all that.
Most conversations open with a salutatory, "How are you", "How are things", "How have you been", when the person making that statement couldnt really give a rat's arse how I am, and if I launched into a spiel about my current situation would suddenly remember a previously forgotten prior engagement and scurry off.
I do it myself, the phone rings, after I ascertain that I will deign to accept the call, exchange a few niceties, answer the customary "How are you", with a benign, "I'm fine", ask in return, "How are you", except.......I do want to hear how "they" are...Why, it takes the focus of me, that's why.
So...next time you engage in interaction with another, maybe take pause for a moment, deflect the automatic response, listen, and answer truthfully if someone asks you....
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