DO YOU TREAT YOURSELF AS YOU TREAT YOUR CLOSE FRIENDS.
February 13th 2007 09:31
re·la·tion·ship - free dictionary online
n.
1. The condition or fact of being related; connection or association.
2. Connection by blood or marriage; kinship.
3. A particular type of connection existing between people related to or having dealings with each other: has a close relationship with his siblings.
4. A romantic or sexual involvement.
I have lately had cause to ponder my relationships. I would say I have a fairly close relationship with my family, with those in my life that I consider to be my real friends,
and maybe a handful of other people who come and go as people do in this busy world.
I dont have a significant other at the moment, so my closest relationship, one would say, the person I spend the most time with is myself, me, I.
I have a love/hate relationship with myself which becomes evident in the things I dont let myself do, especially things I would really enjoy. Why, because I dont feel like I deserve to enjoy myself, for various reasons I wont go into. (this is subconscious most of the time, some time's I catch myself doing it).
Something the psychologist said to me yesterday just popped up from nowhere in my mind a few minutes ago, sprang to the front, look at me, take notice, dont push me away, forget me, like you do................
The psychologist asked me how I would respond to one of my dear friends if they were depressed and not having an easy time. I replied that I would "feel" for them and more than likely do something, small or otherwise to try to cheer them up, if it was appropriate, (no silly party games if granddad's just died more likely an offer to cook a meal).
I would nevertheless no doubt, offer support and comfort.
The psychologist said something very simple, so simple that the fact it has never occured to me in 43 years of life, took me aback, maybe a bit more than it should have.
She said "Why dont you treat yourself as you would a dear friend, be kind to yourself, give yourself a hug, do something nice for yourself, treat yourself, have a bubble bath, take a walk in the park, at least why dont you think about it and give it a try, nothing to lose".
So now that I have remembered what she said, I'm going to give it a try, nothing to lose but time and I've got plenty of that at the moment.
Love and bubbles
n.
1. The condition or fact of being related; connection or association.
2. Connection by blood or marriage; kinship.
3. A particular type of connection existing between people related to or having dealings with each other: has a close relationship with his siblings.
4. A romantic or sexual involvement.
I have lately had cause to ponder my relationships. I would say I have a fairly close relationship with my family, with those in my life that I consider to be my real friends,
and maybe a handful of other people who come and go as people do in this busy world.
I dont have a significant other at the moment, so my closest relationship, one would say, the person I spend the most time with is myself, me, I.
I have a love/hate relationship with myself which becomes evident in the things I dont let myself do, especially things I would really enjoy. Why, because I dont feel like I deserve to enjoy myself, for various reasons I wont go into. (this is subconscious most of the time, some time's I catch myself doing it).
Something the psychologist said to me yesterday just popped up from nowhere in my mind a few minutes ago, sprang to the front, look at me, take notice, dont push me away, forget me, like you do................
The psychologist asked me how I would respond to one of my dear friends if they were depressed and not having an easy time. I replied that I would "feel" for them and more than likely do something, small or otherwise to try to cheer them up, if it was appropriate, (no silly party games if granddad's just died more likely an offer to cook a meal).
I would nevertheless no doubt, offer support and comfort.
The psychologist said something very simple, so simple that the fact it has never occured to me in 43 years of life, took me aback, maybe a bit more than it should have.
She said "Why dont you treat yourself as you would a dear friend, be kind to yourself, give yourself a hug, do something nice for yourself, treat yourself, have a bubble bath, take a walk in the park, at least why dont you think about it and give it a try, nothing to lose".
So now that I have remembered what she said, I'm going to give it a try, nothing to lose but time and I've got plenty of that at the moment.
Love and bubbles
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